Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Just tonight I got through the numbers for the projected expenses for this funeral. I almost fainted. Why do people insist on having their own way on this and that when they are not even paying for it? Now I have a headache on where to get the payment when the memorial plan is not even going to cover the basic arrangements.
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Take it from me...don't leave the world without settling all that can be settled.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of a previous post (or thread) by one of our contacts here about a Living Will, i.e. the need to leave instructions (wishes) after one is gone, including specifics of funeral arrangements, etc.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. I think my dad was just complacent or left it too late.
ReplyDeleteIts a scramble to juggle and figure out esp since its just not my mom and me.
Lesson learned: If one is hesitant or is unable to make his/her Living Will, someone should draft or propose it. The internet is replete with resources on this (about Living Will and even samples).
ReplyDeletewell, even if wala akong heir as of this moment, I certainly am going to prepare for mine with all the things I've seen here.
ReplyDeleteYou do now, ME. Just add my name as your heir, problem solved. hahaha Just want to make you laugh Cat
ReplyDelete:-) you made me smile at least...and I thought I wouldn't for the last hour or so
ReplyDeleteHope all is well at last.
ReplyDeleteYour Mom has the last word on the matter, don't you think?
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Reminds me of Yogi Berra's "Yogiisms":
"Always go to other people's funerals, otherwise they won't come to yours."
Kung ako yong anak, matagal na silang nakatikim ng ilang libong malutong na PIN! Teka huwag, madadamay paa ang nanay ko sa mura.
ReplyDeleteHay naku, you can cut the tension in the air with a knife.
ReplyDeleteTry the best you can Cat. Whoever is paying rules. That is my rule.
ReplyDeleteNot too sure about that. For me, the immediate family, in this case Cat and her mom, should rule. Whoever is covering for the funeral costs should just consider it as a gesture of kindness and generosity.
ReplyDeleteTama si Lou! But its more complicated than that in Cat's case, Lou. I hope she stays strong in the coming days. We can only offer encouragement and try to help her find the right people to help her.
ReplyDeleteSana. . .
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure which is better...
ReplyDeleteIn some cultures, paying respect to the dead, and his/her is solemnly given during the mourning and put differences aside for another day of discussion.
In others, it's the opposite. Differences and issues are displayed right then, regardless of the occasion.
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Perhaps the point is, (to me) respect should be given to the family of the dead, no matter what.
Normally it is the immediate family who pays the funeral cost unless there is a third party that caused the death. So in this case, Cat and her Mom's wishes should be followed.
ReplyDeletehi P'Mod...
ReplyDeletewell in one aspect, the dead has been buried.
the other stuff..the living struggling to go on is another matter....but then again, c'est la vie I guess...
theoretically, this is the case...
ReplyDeleteI blame myself...I should have gone with her but I had just arrived from the airport with no sleep and I wasn't sure if I would be of more use to her..I certainly didn't expect her to say yes to that casket..if I were me, I'd say let's get something simpler or else you pay for it.
eh? what is the PIN?
ReplyDeletethink of it this way Mommy Loy, pwede sya knife sharpener magamit...hehe
ReplyDeleteI was delayed kc sa flight..tapos pagdating na pagdating ko naman, aalis daw kc i move at lagay sa Rolling Hills, another funeral parlor kc yun yung gusto...e malay ko pala ganon pala pakay nila...
ReplyDeleteanyway, isip ko naman, bahala na...somehow, the money will come from somewhere...and besides, last scenario, may savings naman ako...it just irks me its being used by other people...not on my dad..basta...
this is a nice scenario...its Utopia...in our case at least...
ReplyDeleteanyway, I tend to go with the who pays rules...but if the payer himself says he will pay but leaves the decision to another set of people, that is indeed the height of generosity...
As long as my mom is going to recover and that she will be safe, I can take it. If things turn ugly...I can probably find the Ms. Hyde in me somewhere...
ReplyDeletemy dad's younger brother (the doctor) contributed the most out of those I had listed...even if tsiken pid pa siguro sa kanya yon..that kind of gesture is much appreciated maski 2 pesos pa yan or 200...but am not seeing anything from the other peeps...on second thought, why should I believe in the milk of human kindness oozing from these folks based on what they have done in the past and recently...better to expect low and maybe receive a pleasant surprise...
ReplyDeleteif some members of the family of the dead don't give the respect...its just downhill...sadly speaking...
ReplyDeleteanyway, siguro understandable coz with the tension and stress...still one must try to be dignified and patient ganitong circumstances...
PIN? --------ina nyo!
ReplyDeletedios me...akala ko something to do with atm...:-)
ReplyDeleteam too naive about these things....
I had to think for awhile to get it, hahaha!
ReplyDeleteibig sabihin masyadong mabait yata si Mar to do that kind of thing? :-)
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