~ dedicated to Me Ann Lim....since she has kindly posted Desiderata, a poem whose lines have been teasing my mind due to a post on food (of all things), I would like to share this with her. I remember a scroll hanging on our house in Mactan Island which had these words...and as a young child I used to read this while eating (our dinner table was in front of the scroll) ~
Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte
- Aug 19, '07 6:05 PM
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meannlim wrote on Aug 19, '07
hey thanks! ang ganda cat! i post ko rin kaya sa kitchen namin for my children to read everytime they eat..hehe!!
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jnuguid wrote on Aug 19, '07, edited on Aug 19, '07
I agree completely, thanks. Kaya sira ang ulo ng mga anak ko.
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nenriquezschanowski wrote on Aug 19, '07
ganda nito..bablikan ulit!
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 19, '07
teka nga muna..*re-reads lines*..anong line dito ang applicable sa "craziness" ng mga anak ni Jack? ano?.....hmmm..baka naman...."If children live with Jack..they learn to...
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 19, '07
glad you like...para sa mga parents and all those who love and deal with children....good luck!
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jnuguid wrote on Aug 19, '07
Joke lang rin, Cat. My kids are out of the house since two years.
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 19, '07
wala namang empty nest syndrome?
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jnuguid wrote on Aug 19, '07
Sa umpisa medyo malunkot. Pero ngayon, okay na. Pag binibisita kami nila Paco at Marisa masaya din. Pag alis, okay din. Ngayon andito si Marisa from Berlin. Gusto rin daw makita yung Stomp-show. Kaya babalikan ko mamayang gabi. I hope they still have tickets.
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 19, '07
the nice thing about having children out of your home, is that when they get married and you have grandchildren...its easier that time around..kc as grandparents, pang spoil lang nga mga apo ang gagawin nyo...yung discipline sa parents na..hehehe
I hope you all have a stomping good time sa show!
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jnuguid wrote on Aug 19, '07
Thanks. Pag mag ka apo ako, pa i-inumin ko sila ng COKE.
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gwiz wrote on Aug 19, '07
Thanks for posting this, Cat. I think it is a great idea to have this posted where children and their parents can see it everyday, like yours did. It did its job well with you!
As for Jack's kids, I think what he means is that his children are self-confident and well-adjusted enough to be freely "sira ang ulo". =)
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cyfunk wrote on Aug 20, '07, edited on Aug 22, '07
I also grew up with this ...I have to thank the General for it.
It is a good guide for parents, and that was what I thought as a child growing up. If my parents would fail me then, I found consolation in the knowledge that I could try to be a better parent myself. It helped me so much to understand them, thinking that they may have had it hard with their own parents and just did the best way they knew how...reading this, I felt a greater responsibility towards my own children.
the rush of emotions growing up move me now...
thanks Cat!!!!
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bananaking69 wrote on Aug 21, '07
Another good place to post this - above the computer monitor.
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gwiz wrote on Aug 21, '07
Right, BNK, seeing that children nowadays spend a lot of their time in front of a computer screen. It has replaced the television in many ways.
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bananaking69 wrote on Aug 21, '07
I'd change this poem to: "ADULTS Learn What They Live" and replace the word children with adults. It'll still be as effective, if not more. Thanks for the post Cat.
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ReplyDeletegwiz wrote on Aug 21, '07
Hehe, korek ka na naman dyan, BNK! =) Mas madalas pa nga, it is the children who pull us back to our basic values.
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bananaking69 wrote on Aug 21, '07
gwiz said
madalas pa nga, it is the children who pull us back to our basic values.
How true, indeed.
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 21, '07
you are welcome....
people do say one understands the parents' plight or point of view when one becomes a parent also...but having godchildren has made me appreciate the difficulty and the joy in raising kids...
to all those who have raised their kids and are confident enough to let them loose in this wide world with all its challenges..I salute you!
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hugzone wrote on Aug 21, '07
Ang masasabi ko lang: I wish I knew better when we started having children. I know the times where we went wrong. I am thankful for the times when we were more resolute with what we thought was right. Kids are people and each of them are unique, with different responses and receptivity, with different sensitivities and fears, with different maturity and intellectual growth. OC that I am (or was), I am wont to ask: teka, saan pa ba pwede linisin? Hahaha!
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 22, '07
LOL...
still though, I would think it would detract from the challenge of raising children if you had a complete and perfect guidebook on how to raise them (may checklist, may test, may refresher course, may certification pa?)
...along with their genes, and the environment they lived in...as parents you are doubly more blessed if you know you did your best with them, but that most of all you gave them all the love you had in you and know that they have the right too to make mistakes and learn from them..
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bananaking69 wrote on Aug 22, '07
Ang husay ng sinabi mo Cat. Ready ka nang maging parent, sa palagay ko.
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 22, '07
BNK, thank you po..pero..tribute ko yung statement na yon sa parents ko...di ako pwede maging parent..isip-bata pa ako, really!
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ReplyDeletebananaking69 wrote on Aug 22, '07
cuh888 said
..isip-bata pa ako, really!
Or shouldn't it be - mukhang bata pero wisdom ng matanda?
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 22, '07
ah...yan ang particular trait we all share sa group natin dito sa Multiply...it takes one to know one pala!
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oselle wrote on Aug 23, '07
aaaaawww, cat, feeling ko sana baby uli mga anak ko, tung tipong simula uli :((
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bananaking69 wrote on Aug 23, '07
oselle said
tung tipong simula uli :((
Pwede ka namang magsimula uli. Tanong mo si Ronald.
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oselle wrote on Aug 23, '07
ngeh....:)
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pearlulanday wrote on Aug 23, '07
Get Your DanceText
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oselle wrote on Aug 24, '07
bwahhahhahaa.....aliw ako!!!
thanks for the offer pearl, hayaan mo nasa listahan ka na...HLH
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cyfunk wrote on Aug 24, '07
sobrang cuuuute....LOL
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 24, '07, edited on Aug 24, '07
Oselle, ok ako for helping in finishing off the food when may christening party and ninang si Pearl...*grin*
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oselle wrote on Aug 25, '07
HLH, ako'y kinakabahan...., sino bang nag pauso nito?
naku, WALA na po, kapon na ako, (ayan nabuking na) please ....
whoaaaaa.... hirap talaga ng nasa showbiz, hehehe
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chiarajulieann wrote on Aug 25, '07
i will print this and stick it on my pc. =D
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pearlulanday wrote on Aug 25, '07
cuh888 said
Oselle, ok ako for helping in finishing off the food when may christening party and ninang si Pearl...*grin*
Kaaliw ka Cat... food ulit...hahaha!
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pearlulanday wrote on Aug 25, '07, edited on Aug 25, '07
oselle said
hirap talaga ng nasa showbiz
yan ang pain ng being famous, oselle! but don't worry, kaming mga fans mo eh nasa likod mo palagi :)
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oselle wrote on Aug 26, '07
waaaahhhhhh....kinikilabutan ako pearl.......HLH
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faitherasmo wrote on Aug 26, '07
chiarajulieann said
i will print this and stick it on my pc. =D
Which? Yung reply ni Oselle? Bakit naman?
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faitherasmo wrote on Aug 26, '07
pearlulanday said
yan ang pain ng being famous, oselle! but don't worry, kaming mga fans mo eh nasa likod mo palagi :)
Rah, rah, rah! Go, Mommy Oselle!
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chiarajulieann wrote on Aug 26, '07
F8 naman... shempre, tinatanong pa ba yan??? =P
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meannlim wrote on Aug 26, '07
faitherasmo said
Which? Yung reply ni Oselle? Bakit naman?
eh fans nga kasi tayo ni oselle di ba? oselle forever fans club, multiply chapter...
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oselle wrote on Aug 26, '07
naku ha, hakakahiya na yan...sobra na 'to ha!!! kayo talaga, ako naman nakita nyo.....palibhasa nasa bakasyon ang mga IDOLO nyong si MJ at FGM....tsk tsk tsk.... =))
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meannlim wrote on Aug 26, '07
uuuy blushing oselle! hehehe!!
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cuh888 wrote on Aug 27, '07
MJ and FGM kc masyadong maraming pwedeing itukso..e kay Oselle, konti lang..so make the most out of it when may makitang chance...mwahahaha!
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oselle wrote on Aug 28, '07
mwaaaaaahhhhaaa :((
=P